In another (metaphorical) life, I was a professional artist under the pseudonym of Ana Kelly. I created paintings, sculptures, installation pieces, and short films. The last piece I created was … Read More
Restoring lost power—your personal power (not your electricity or charging your iPhone)—is a matter is reconnecting with who you really are, your soul-level gifts, your passions, your desires, the core … Read More
Is fear a monster? A prison? A villain trying to hurt you? It’s actually none of these things. Fear is blanket that’s trying to keep you safe—by lulling you to … Read More
Who am I, if I am no longer “Kelly who’s afraid of spiders”?
Being afraid of spiders became part of my identity. It’s part of how I was known in my family. My husband and my ex-husband both took on the role of keeping me safe from spiders. My children learned not to ask me to save them from spiders.
Most people in politics seem to spout their own opinions without concern for understanding other people. Further, they want desperately to be understood, but they don’t actually change how they communicate in order to be understood. When they aren’t understood, they simply repeat the exact same thing in the exact same way, implying that the listener was too stupid to understand them the first time.
That is not Fox.
My dad spent most of his life following his fear rather than following his heart. When I was growing up, I watched him drag himself—miserable—to work every day. He always told *me* to pick a career I loved. He also told me, “Do as I say, not as I do.” Because what he was modeling was taking a job for money, not for love—caving to the pressures of family and reputation, giving in to society’s definition of success, not his own.
During the month of October, Pittsburgh has the pleasure of hosting artist Florentijn Hofman’s “Rubber Duck.” From the moment of its arrival on September 27th, the 40-foot tall inflatable duck has sparked smiles and inspired joy. It seems no one can resist the happy yellow or the almost Mona Lisa smile of this floating animal totem.
I see scores of people sharing articles, quotes and Facebook memes reminding you that your purpose for being alive is to serve other people.
My problem is that it’s not true. At least, it’s not true for everyone.
As human animals, fear is hardwired into our brains. Fear of the unknown, fear of the dark, fear of big snarling carnivores all helped our ancestors survive—and pass on their genes—in the African savannah. Fear of heights, fear of snakes, fear of crowds can all continue to contribute to our survival even today.
Watch the video to learn 3 steps from the Fear Releasing Method™ to release your fear in any situation.
If you’ve been following my work on the 7 primary fears, you may remember that my primary fear is vulnerability, which translates into the fear of being criticized or ridiculed. When fear of vulnerability is your top primary fear, you end up with plenty of opportunities to make yourself vulnerable, to be criticized and to be ridiculed. It may seem ironic—the thing you most want to avoid is the thing that you attract.